Joint children's birthday parties


A significant amount of the parties I do are joint children’s birthday parties where 2 families have joined forces to organise a great party for their children.  This can be a great way for families to save money (literally halve the costs) but still throw a big party for their children and also ease the work load for both sides.  However there are a number of things you need to consider to make sure this is a success.

Making Joint Children’s Birthday Parties a success

1) – Do you want the same thing? – If you are friends with a family whose child has their birthday at the same time as your child then holding a joint party can be a great idea.  However if one loves football and being very active and the other is more into arts and crafts and quieter activities, then it may be hard to find a suitable compromise so that the party is special for both of them.  I have done many parties where we have combined two themes to accommodate their interests, most recently a Princess and Superhero party, and that worked fine as both liked active games, dancing etc. However if their personalities are very different, ie one is very outgoing and the other is shy, then a joint party may not be your best option

2) – Do they have the same friends? – Many people join forces for a party as their children are in the same class at school.  This can be great as they will more than likely have the same friends so you won’t end up having to invite any more children than if you had held a party just for your own child.  If however, they are two children who go to different schools or are in different classes, then you could end up having to invite double the amount of children to make sure each have their own friends there.  This can then negate any cost savings you had on food, party bags etc by doing a joint party in the first place.

3) – Who will do what? – One of the main benefits of having a joint party is that it can half the workload.  Let’s face it there is a lot to do organising a children’s party from arranging the venue and entertainment, sending out invites and managing RSVP’s, food shopping and preparing, party bags and decorations and if you are a busy parent (who isn’t) it can seem a bit overwhelming.  So having someone to share the load can seem like a godsend and with most of the joint parties I have attended it really has worked, with parents drawing on their own skills and preferences so that no one is totally stressed out.  However I have attended a couple of parties over the years where it is clear that one parent has been left to do the majority of the work and is clearly not happy about it.  It is a rare occurance but like any commitment make sure that both parties no what is expected of them and try and divide the work out fairly so that no one feels hard done by.

4) – Age gaps – The other type of joint party I quite often do is for siblings.  On Saturday I did one for twins and I have also done parties for siblings who are different ages.  The same considerations apply i.e do they like the same things, how different are their personalities, do they have similar friendship groups.  If the age gap is big then it can be hard to find common ground when choosing entertainment or a theme, however I have done many joint parties for siblings say aged 3 and 5 and they have worked fine.  I have also done parties for children aged 4,5 or 6 with a baby sibling turning 1.  These have also worked well as the parents have wanted the entertainment aimed at the older children and we still make a fuss of the one year old too.

Joint parties really can be double the fun if you sit down at the start and sort out exactly who is doing what, when and where and can provide lasting memories of such a special occasion shared with a sibling or friend.

I am always interested to hear of any tips you have for parties so do share below.